Three Weeks

via ariana lynee
In exactly 3 weeks I'll be getting married.

Some days, like today, have been extraordinarily normal.

We went to Little India in the morning, to buy some hula hoops. We had lunch at a fast food joint. I went to Clementi club; you played computer games with your brother. We met for dinner at a food court and went to get more hula hoops from Toys R Us.

Recently there have been a lot of errands to run, a lot of meetings to attend and a lot of things to organise. Some of my friends remarked in surprise that I'd gotten darker before my wedding (the Asian perspective on beauty is fairer is better) but I couldn't help it; last Saturday was spent erecting tents under the sun in a park for a community event.

The thing is, I don't want to put my life on hold for my wedding. I don't want to step back serving in club and go for fancy photo shoots and look like someone I'm not on my wedding day. The wedding, after all, is hardly for us. It doesn't really matter if we want a big wedding or an 'intimate' wedding, flowers or balloons, pink or gold. The wedding, just like what we'd like the rest of our lives to be, is about celebrating a Father and the people he's placed in our lives to make us who we are today... our families, our friends and churches. Marriage will be about putting the other person first; the wedding models that by putting our friends and families before ourselves.

So no, we haven't done a pre-wedding photoshoot; we're not doing the gatecrashing; and no, we're not going to match the ang pows to the guest list (haha!). Instead, we will be honouring the people who have poured their lives into us thus far. Not mainly because it's the right thing to do but mainly because we want to.

It will be an extraordinarily normal wedding, and we will lead extraordinarily normal lives after; no big destiny, no grand romance, no riding off into the sunset. No especially divine moments when we suddenly realised God had created us for each other, no spectacular story (read the previous two posts for proof! Haha). Just a humble recognition that we have received far more than we deserve, for to live kindly and generously with the knowledge that heaven awaits must surely be the greatest thing on earth.